Gender Confusion

Assalamualaikum warahmatullah

Society consists of different characters of people which actually related to each other. Good moral conduct is important in a society and it builds a systematic way of living which eventually lead to a prosper country.

Islam strictly forbid immoral activities which will lead to the corruption in the society and the country in general. The people of Prophet Luth a.s were punished because of homosexual and many other examples from the Qur'an.

The growing numbers of male who have the tendencies to become women in the society has became to be great fitnah. Who are created as caliph in the world to uphold the religion and to be the best society among others. Allah mentioned in the Qur'an, Indeed I created caliph to foster good deeds and to forbid bad deeds in the society. Realized it or not, our society are being tremendously affected by the western ways of living where the men are having sexual tendencies towards the men whereas the girls towards the same gender. Not only in the western countries,

I found a local website also promoted the idea of homosexuality with pictures and experiences. I was so surprise to see the hopes of the Muslims future and leadership are busy themselves doing sins even though they already knew the consequences of it. Talking about this situation, I was thinking forward about the future generation that we are shaping now. Are we having a society with identity and responsibility confusion? Unable to stand on the real world which requires them to fulfill their responsibilities as caliph? To do good deeds and to forbid bad deeds in the society? This she male or whatever you call them, looked very gentlemen in nature with good looking appearances. However their real pleasure were so immoral by having sexual intercourse among themselves. What will happened if they got married? What happened to the future Islamic society?

I just hope among guys out there are very serious to uphold their real duties as good Muslim and caliph of Allah s.w.t . And I pray Allah to give them guidance and forgiveness

Assalamualaikum

Yesterday I saw a scenario of human living which significantly make me realize about the real meaning of life. On the way coming back home from school, I found a man with a girl walk along the roadside. The man was down syndrome and he is holding the girl's hand...maybe she is his daughter.

I felt so empathy looking at both of them walking under the hot sun. I wonder how Allah giving them a hard life while some of us living comfortable. Sometimes I found an old women carry bag on their head walking under the sun. Immediately I question myself...should I stop the car and lift her to her destination or just continue driving and i say...well..that is life is all about? hardship and test is everywhere. While I keep questioning myself .. I left the old women behind and i continue driving with regret. I blame myself for this... I suppose to stop the car and give her a lift.

Do you realized that things we saw everyday sometimes reveal the real life of human being in this world. Everything we own... are given by ALLAH as a test. Being the haves or the have not does not means you are better than others.

I feel so weak look at the needy while I am not able to do anything even to give a lift to an old women walking sweating under the hot sun. May Allah forgive me.

And I was thinking why there are differences in social status... and I read the answer in some book said that the prayer of the have not are more acceptable and during the day of judgment...the poor will not being hisab for a long time to pass the siratul mustaqim.

May Allah make our heart rich and share our wealth with those who really need help.
Even, I am not rich and not so poor...just I don't want to be among those whom their heart and sight are closed from Allah's blessing.

The Beginning of New Journey..

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It has been a year I have not post any article since coming back from Umrah last year. I was decided not to be active in blogging any longer since I got transfered to a new place. In addition, to be honest even it sounds funny... I forgot my password.

Surprising, only tonight I remembered my password and I thanks to Allah s.w.t for it !!. It is miracle when something you had forgotten for about a year and suddenly the exatly words and numbers of the paswords appeared so vivid in my head.

Insha Allah, i will continue to post some new stories and sharing more informations, starting my journey to Makkah al-Mukarammah.

Well...I hope you guys will enjoy and could take good things for your own good from this blog. Last but not least, the good things only from Allah and the bad is from my own weaknesess.

The mirage

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Would there be a ship in the middle of the desert? It is clearly deniable by all of us except by those who are living with innovation thoughts and life 's Principe. Like a mirage of a ship in the desert.
Allah says in the Qur'an : al-An'aam ( 112 & 113 )

Today, we are living in a fitnah where Islamic practicing are not anymore considered as important in life. For instance to give respect to the eldest, patience , work hard, amanah etc. I choose to write this topic because today a new friend came to me and she look so sad. She was called by the head of faculty and she was adviced by some teachers not to be show off. She was trying to be friendly and do what ever tasks the authority asked her to do passionately. However she was called to meet the head of faculty which is ustazah and she was reminded not to show off and stop acting so brave and stop trying to be friendly to others.

I was acting so neutral to her and let her mixed up with everyone. She came to see me and look sad. I asked her why, she asked me back, "Is it wrong to be friendly here? Is it wrong to do all instructions for the authority?" I smiled at her and I told her that you know the answer. " I think it is not wrong" she almost cry. " I said of course not and she started to feeling strange. "I have not much to say...do what you think is right and behold on your value and what you religion teach you to do..you'll be in peace" she seems to be so quite and thinking what did I told her. I leave her at the office. I knew she must be sad but I am avoiding myself from saying bad about others people too. Last night, I sms her one ayat from Quran ( al-Baqarah : 154) and she replied back with beautiful supplication. Tonight she sms me with other suplication and I replied her back ( al-An'aam : 112 and 113)

This is a simple situation which we are facing everyday in our life. The bad things are surrounding us and shaitan playing its role to seduce all from all aspects of our living. Good things / deeds looked as bad and vice verse. We are returning to jahiliyah period and sometimes I cry alone. What have I done so far to help the situation. I am weak and what I can do is just pray to Allah s.w.t to give all of us Hidayah and to walk on the straight path. We are far from Prophet's time and his companions but we are near to the hadith and most important to the qur'an al-Qarim as our guidance

Fear to Allah alone and never fear to those who invited you to worng doings.

Behold of these two and you shall never lost

How to be A Boss?

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I have a senior friend who come back to work at the same place with me after completing his Master. He is my father's age and very kind man with fatherhood characters. He always gave useful advices as elders and I usually refers to him for some problems with works. He never feel reluctant to help.

After some months, he moved to a new school where he was appointed to be Principal. After a year, i met him at the bazaar and i greet him to show my respect. From the conversation, i found that he is absolutely different person now. He is more serious and talk less. I went home with questions floating in my mind. Is this a character a boss should have?

I was a an ordinary teacher for years but this year, I was appointed to be head of my unit. There are 4 teachers under my supervision and all of them are juniors. Being a leader is a challenge for me because i don't know how to be a boss. Should I be strict to make sure all works done properly? Should I observe their works all the time. I am not used to be so serious while working but i found that some times i have to act seriously when some works delayed. And when I act serious, i realized some of the teachers are getting little bit upset.

I try to deal with them the best way but sometimes I failed. The Principal and some other senior teacher said...don't bother yourself with relation and try to be professional dealing with them. Instruction and order is obligatory for a leader and to make sure all works accomplished.

Any suggestion how to be a good leader??

Kenangan di Telok Cempedak

Dah lama tak pergi ke Telok Cempedak, kira-kira 600meter dari MRSM Kuantan. Keindahan pantainya menggamit nostalgia lama bersama keluarga bercuti di Telok Cempedak suatu ketika lalu.

Scene 1

Masih awal, banyak kedai tutup...tak dapat la nak menjamah Big Mac dari Mac Donald di TC. Perut bergurindam kelaparan sebab tak makan pagi. Tensen..tensen.

Scene II Pemandangan yang sama..masih indah dan memukau pandangan. Maha Suci ya Allah.

Scene III

Sedang ambil gambar student yang sedang ambil gambar jugak.

Yang berbaju merah di belakang nun katanya baju basah kerana ditolak kawan ke dalam air, wahal dia sendiri yang lompat. Ini kes lama tak jumpa air laut.

All these students were announce to be the best participants among malaysia. Kesian pula tak bawa berjalan ke Telok Cempedak yang terletak kira-kira 600 meter dari MRSM Kuantan. Ini actually before perjalanan balik.

Scene IV

Celcom's CEO Tan Sri Shazalli Bin Ramli, giving speech during closing ceremony Convention of Young Entreneurship MRSM se-Malaysia in MRSM Kuantan ( 15-17th Mac 2008). He was actually former Mrsm Kuantan's students . He gave us his private phone number and agreed to give free top up for those who sms him that particular night of closing ceremony and promised to sponsor our next Convention in MRSM Kubang Pasu. Tahniah Kubang Pasu. Pastikan the best Convention ever in MARA history. Mlm closing ceremony, MRSM Muadzam Shah mainkan satu lagu tradisional menggunakan gendang. Surprisingly, Tan Sri Shazalli ambil kesempatan pukul gendang...expert jugak main gendang. Yang bestnya sempat dia minta maaf pada guru-guru lama yang pernah mengajarnya kerana katanya pernah curi ayam dari Dewan Selera untuk dipanggang sebab lapor sangat...heheh. Bagus betul orgnya...sangat menghormati guru-guru walaupun sudah menjadi ternama.

this picture was taken in my room..ehehe.

You choose what you wanna be

An-Najm : 31
Yea, to Allah belongs all that is in the heavens and on earth: so that He rewards those who do evil, according to their

deeds, and He rewards those who do good, with what is best.

an-Najm: 32

Those who avoid great sins and shameful deeds, only (falling into) small faults,- verily thy Lord is ample in forgiveness. He knows you well when He brings you out of the earth, And when ye are hidden in your mothers' wombs. Therefore justify not yourselves: He knows best who it is that guards against evil.

How do you feel if you are acting as the head of a unit where you have to supervise some workers under your authority, but you were annoyed. Just gave them some tasks and they will say, no we are busy for another works. How do you feel when they never give little respect to you and they just do what ever they want to do about without asking your permission in the first place? It must be really tough working with these people. You have the authority but you have no power on them.

Last 2 years, I preferred to keep silent and try to finish the work although the works actually assigned to them not me. They just sit in a group and chatting about everything, but not any single thing about their responsibility as a worker. I never complaint about them and i just give them trust to change but it just doesn't work at all. In other hand, they became to be so arrogant and cannot be criticized at all.

This year, it seems the situation is change. I don't know where it come from but i feel that I need to do something for the sake of our organization and foremost for the sake of ALLAH s.w.t I can be silent forever and let them enjoy their times by chatting and gossiping. But that's not right and I am actually should be blamed for being so tolerate and let them took advantage on my weaknesses. I started to do investigation about them and I found they were actually protected by the head of department, which means a person who have more authority than me. For example, they don't come to work and they don't have to come to ask for leave. They just give a call to the authority. In other hand, if i need emergency leave, there were too many procedures which require me to come to work first , fill up the forms and see the authority to explain the reason.

This system makes me feel bored. Those who come to works just to waste their time by gossiping others are having more privilege over those who struggle and work so hard to accomplish the organization's objectives. This year, they saw different "me". I started to give them works with due dates to submit their works. I write all the instructions officially in a sheet of paper and obtained the signature of the authority and give the letter to them. In case if they still refused to do it, I'll just let the authority take actions on them.

Today... one of them come and asked me excitedly. Do you want to send me to a course outstation next weeks? It seems she is so interested to go outside since she don't have to do works in the office. I said "No... i have already choose some one else which is more senior than you. She is more appropriate for this work" She was little bit upset, I asked her where do you know about the outstation work? She said with worried...err..err we received a call from the office" she said to me. I asked her..who choose you to go outstation?" i realized she looked back and said the head of department asked to go. "I said to her, it is my job to choose who I want to go to the outstation, not her. And do not make any decision without asking me next time" I can see she was so upset. I turn around and leave her with her friends. Before going back from work...she came to me and asked me politely ..." I am sorry and this is my works" it seems sometimes we have to act serious and little bossy right ?

Islam Vs Culture

We are living in our traditional custom and some of us are so proud of it. I am proud to be Malaysian and i am proud with our heritage and custom which we get from our ancestors. These culture and heritage no doubt have influences on our decision especially a crucial decision regarding matters like marriage. Some of us prefer to have future spouse from our own nation since he/she has the same culture as we do. But now it is is common for interracial marriage where both spouse is coming from very different culture, language and completely different way of thinking. But i can see some of them have good life but maybe some felt regret.

I think in all matters in life, it is not wrong to put tradition or custom as our main guidelines. But it is not priority in life to put custom and tradition if these customs and traditions are too much contradicted to our religion. In this case, i guess all of us who claimed as a Muslim and who testify that There is only one God, that is Allah and Prophet Muhammad s.a.w is the Messenger of Allah should put Islam as the most priority in life than custom and tradition.

Beside, to develop a great civilization there must not be stagnant. It must be expanded in other words to adapt and to make little transformation based on others culture and to make our better. I means here to practice tradition which are not contradicted to Islam and abrogate all customs which contradicted to Islam.

Then...it will be suitable enough for us to say I'm a Muslim.

Self Defense Mechanism

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We will assume that if someone who need to be under treatment of a psychiatrist will be considered as mentally ill. The term phsyco itself refers to word crazy/insane. Those whose need to be treated in the psychiatry will be isolated by the society or friends. This is what happened in the world today. And this assumption will make us scared to meet the psychiatrist if in some cases we need to refers to them.

I strongly agreed that with the problems people are facing today will lead some of us to severe depression. Depression is not only for the adults but also the children who might suffered from a tragic event in their life will eventually shaped their own negative characteristics. For example, if a child always being punished or teased of committing wrong deeds or maybe he get less grades in his exams , and when he grew up he will have very low self-esteem. He would even scared to be in the society or to express his own opinions because he is afraid of being punish if his opinions are wrong.
This type of person will grew up with all negative response in his life which finally turn him to be so extrovert. He choose to be silent than talking because silent is one way of self defense mechanism which make him feel much secured.

In Asian countries, most parents always make comparison among their children. Actually we need to bare in mind that although the children is just 4 or 5 years old, she will understand what we said about her. If we compared her to some friends or maybe her own siblings, she will begin to feel inferior to her own siblings. Than, she decided to be silent because for him, that is the best way to avoid from punishment. We need to realized about this very much. Do not compared the children with anybody and indeed you need to compliment or appreciate his achievements although it was wrong. This way of appreciation will develop his self esteem and later to be very independent individual when she getting older.

To develop self esteem among kids :-
1. To let them do what they want to do.
2. To give them compliment/appreciation although the result is bad/good or right/wrong.
3. Try not to put things right or wrong in their daily activities.
4. Do not compared her achievements with any other siblings
5. Ask her to help you for some works that she can do it. ( make her feel important)
6. Give her some value time to spend shopping with you at the supermarket ( don't bring other children : this lead her
to feel that she has responsibilities)
7. Don't control her behavior/attitude too much by punishment.
8. Let her make her own decision ( etc. to choose her dress)